Living From Inside Out: The Value of Conscious Aging and the Foray (4a+) “Beyond Self” Paradigm

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Living From Inside Out:

The Value of Conscious

Aging and the Foray (4a+)

“Beyond Self” Paradigm

“Growing” older can open possibilities never thought

possible. New research supports a trio of fresh ideas for

getting there.

By Theresa Southam, PhD and

Connie S. Corley, MSW, MA, PhD

www.csa.us

Copyright 2020 Society of Certified Senior AdvisorsLIVING FROM INSIDE OUT:

The Value of Conscious

Aging and the Foray (4A+)

“Beyond Self” Paradigm

“Growing” older can open possibilities never thought possible.

New research supports a trio of fresh ideas for getting there.

BY THERESA SOUTHAM, PHD AND CONNIE S. CORLEY, MSW, MA , PHD

Growing in later life is not a given; in fact,

many older adults are healthy and active but

may still feel something is missing. We share

stories and processes, facilitated by several practices il-

lustrated here, demonstrating that living from the in-

side out is life enhancing for self and others. Informed

by research, the 4A model previously presented is

expanded to 4A+ as the journey or “foray” into the

unknown of old age unfolds for an increasing number

of people living long lives.

The Emergence of Conscious Aging

In many cultures, the work of elders is less about for-

mal work and more about engaging in inner work. In

the context of “positive aging,” there is growing in-

terest of “conscious aging.” In this article we provide

examples from participants in a research study and

share practices of conscious aging in order to further

enhance this complex time in the life course.

“Maybe we’ve evolved as much as we’re going to

evolve biologically and the next real evolution of hu-

mankind is the evolution of human consciousness”

(Schlitz, Vieten, & Erickson-Freeman, 2011, p. 228).

Self-actualization, a process of becoming better,

healthier people, is multi-faceted and can emerge at

various times. Self-actualization can be accompanied

by increased instances of self-transcendence. Re-

searcher Susanne Cook-Greuter writes that self-tran-

scendence is not a later stage of self-actualization, but

a completely separate process; one becomes open to

non-rational sources of input (2000). Moody (2002)

adds that through established long-term practices, we

may reach higher stages of psychological functioning

and “transcend” unhelpful midlife patterns.

In conscious aging, or gerotranscendence, older

adults tend to become less self-focused, more selec-

tive in their social activities, and spend more time in

solitude and introspection. People who engage in con-

scious aging practices report a reduction in the fear of

death, increased broadmindedness, and a sense of tol-

erance, along with feelings of unity with the universe

and a new view of time (Tornstam, 2005).

It is not surprising that the body, mind, and the

spirit continue to evolve and change until the day we

die. However, gerontologists often focus on the body

and mind, and less on conscious aging, a process that

can be viewed as nurturing spirits and souls.

Forays with and Beyond Self (4A+)

Aging Paradigm

In recent research, several highly generative adults

aged seventy and up were found to be not only wise,

but also experiencing transcendence (Southam, 2020).

Immersed in caring for others (their communities,

families, and the Earth), these older adults were also

informed by experiences that connected them to other

worlds and ways of knowing not seen to be this world.

In this article we expand on a manuscript previously

published in this journal, called: Positive Aging Per-

spectives and a New Paradigm: Foray (4A) into Aging

(Corley and Southam, 2018). We discuss how the spe-

cific tools, life maps, LifeForward plans, and wisdom

circles can help older adults age consciously, avoid be-

ing pressured into activities created by those on the

outside and, instead, lead a life from the inside out.

In the original model by Corley called “4A”

(Awareness, Affiliation, Attitude, and Activity) (Cor-

ley, 2011), a range of practices were found to promote

continuous development, health, and well-being in

older adults. The practices led to more active reflec-

tion on life’s experiences, maintaining and creating

new social networks, heightened awareness of one’s

health, and active engagement of the mind and body.

Although the participants in the recent study (South-

am, 2020) engaged in these processes of actualizing

the self, they were also found to transcend the mind,

body, and spirit. These discoveries led to a proposal

for an expanded model: Foray (4A+) Beyond Self. See

Figure 1.

Transcendence has been described as “a state of

consciousness that one can enter, but leaves upon

returning to ordinary reality” (Cook-Greuter, 2000,

p. 232). The activities described by the research par-

ticipants that led them to transcendence included

deepening spiritual and religious practices, letting

go of possessions, embracing ongoing “relationships”

with people who have died, integrating the head and

heart, appreciating their shared humanity, and realiz-

ing the fluid nature of knowledge (Southam, 2020).

Older adults were found to travel in and out of the

ego-bound, self-actualizing self, growing through

transcendence. One example is Chris, profiled below.

Chris, one of the study participants, described

transcendent experiences through his lifelong pursuit

of photographing nature. He has lived in his commu-

nity in Canada since he was a young man, making a

Figure Beyond Self.

I can approach any subject and express myself in

a way that I never have before, I never dreamt

of [shaking his head in disbelief ]. So now pho-

tography is opening up a world that no one else

has ever seen. I’ve never seen it. I’m able to share

worlds that [my workshop participants] don’t

know exist. That’s pretty cool. You feel it in the

audience when you show them. It is like wow!” he

chuckles, and turns off the highway to the loca-

tion of his next shoot.

Chris has learned his father also explored abstract

themes. He was surprised to find this out when he

returned to the city of his childhood. It was during

a presentation he was making at a photography club

where his father had been a prominent member that

his father’s friends approached him. He and his father

shared a mentor, so he realized that he shouldn’t have

been surprised in their common interests.

Reminiscing and facing mortality, as Chris is do-

ing, are all part of healthy aging. Cultural anthropolo-

gist Angeles Arrien noted that as we age, we have four

frontiers to face: knowing from what we are coming

and toward what we are going, becoming a mentor,

living from photography, publishing books, and giving

coping with the natural challenges of an aging body,

1. Foray (4A) model (Corley, 2011) expanded by co-authors to Foray (4A) +

workshops. Most of his activity has focused on con-

and embracing the inevitability of our own death (Ar-

serving the region he so loves. At seventy-nine, hav-

rien, 2007). In their recent book Walking Each Other

ing accomplished much over his life, he has delighted

Home: Conversations on Loving and Dying, Dass and

himself with what still lies in store. Now comfortably

Bush discuss old age as a window of opportunity,

living with his partner in a house they built and work-

when older adults “can give up accumulating experi-

ing from his straw bale-construction studio, Chris de-

Transcendence has been described as “a state of consciousness that one can enter,

ences and material possessions and instead appreci-

scribes himself as not very religious, but very spiritual.

ate the connectedness of all things” (2018, p. 11). The

His health is good. When he was twenty-five, Chris

but leaves upon returning to ordinary reality” (Cook-Greuter, 2000, p. 232). The

authors discuss a range of practices that aid conscious

survived a serious car accident he says should have

aging, such as being present, cultivating compassion

killed him. “My father told me I was spared because

activities described by the research participants that led them to transcendence included

and loving kindness, and dying into loving awareness.

I had something special to contribute. Those words

Dass, who experienced a stroke at age sixty-six, em-

were inspirational and I never forgot them,” Chris

deepening spiritual and religious practices, letting go of possessions, embracing ongoing

bodied many of these practices up to the time of his

said. Throughout his life, Chris has “transcended” this

death at age eighty-eight in December, 2019.

“relationships” with people who have died, integrating the head and heart, appreciating

world by immersing himself in nature and through

Facing Arrien’s four frontiers while engaging in

his photographs. One day in 2019, as he and the re-

practices that help to transcend the mind, body, and

their shared humanity, and realizing the fluid nature of knowledge (Southam, 2020).

searcher (Southam) approached a high point in the

spirit are essential in the life of consciously aging

landscape on a photographic outing, he said, “When

older adults. They may travel back and forth between

I come up onto the plateau, I leave this other world.”

self-actualizing and self-transcending. Tools that are

Lately, Chris has been engaging in artist retreats,

known to be helpful in self-actualization, described in

places where artists can stay for weeks and pursue

the original Foray (4A) model, may also aid in self-

their art. He signs up for nearby retreats and recently

transcendence, including autobiography, life maps,

for one overseas in Europe. During these times alone

attention, intention, and deep listening (Corbett,

in nature he explores other realities. He displays pure

2013; Erikson, 1988; Gardner, 2000; Maslow, 1971;

joy with techniques he employs completely within

Tornstam, 2005). For the expanded model Foray

his camera:

(4A+) – Beyond Self, we will examine the life map,

the LifeForward Plan, and wisdom circles as examples

“Possibilities of any subject matter are endless!

There are literally thousands of ways with which

of practical tools for older adults who are interested in

continuous development towards self-transcendence.

PAGE 16Practical Tools for Leading from Inside

Out

In this section we discuss tools and activities that

help older adults reflect on what has been important

(see life map), focus on what is important now (see

LifeForward Plan), and support their conscious ag-

ing in community (wisdom circles). These tools were

self-reported to be transformative in the research. The

participants were living the life they wanted to live,

as opposed to just living their lives. Their experiences

could be helpful for older adults who follow the Foray

(4A) model to guide their lifelong learning and who

are interested in a more contemplative and transcen-

dent late life.

LIFE MAP

Methods such as reminiscence, life review, and auto-

biography have flourished in the aging field to help

older adults integrate their life experiences (Cohen,

2006a & 2006b). Understanding life narratives, in-

cluding major transitions and what is learned from

them, can elevate wisdom, generativity, and transcen-

dence among seniors. In the research by Southam

(2019), nine participants aged seventy and up created

life maps. See Jan’s life map below. The life map for

this study was based on the work of Hodge (2005)

and Stinson (2013). An 11” x 14” piece of paper was

FIGURE 2. CHRIS ON HIS BELOVED

CHILCOLTIN PLATEAU.

used with the title Guide Posts in My Life or Spiritual

Life Map. Instructions at the bottom of the page read:

“On this sheet of paper draw your life’s journey from

a spiritual perspective, including stops along the way.

You do not have to be an artist; e.g., stick people are

fine! Your path might be linear, by decades, or it might

be more freeform where life events that are significant

to your spiritual development are drawn together.”

Some prompts on the map included:

• “What trials have you learned from?”

FIGURE 3. JAN’S LIFE MAP

“Have you felt communion with a spirit outside

of yourself or a redefinition of time, space and

objects?”

• “What have you learned from life’s experiences?”

• “Are there rituals or practices that help you?”

• “Are there relationships or mentors that are par-

ticularly important?”

Jan, one of the research participants, is seventy

and only recently retired from a leadership position.

She is already on the board of several community

non-profits. For her, this project came just at the right

time. Reflecting on major transitions in her life and

planning what is important in the future were timely

tasks (Figure 3); she was in the process of deciphering

what is next for her.

Jan discusses how she transcends herself in the

process of the life map:

You [referring to the researcher] walked into my

life right when I was struggling with what I’d

FIGURE 4. MARY’S LIFEFORWARD PLAN.

accomplished. You were a witness. Participating

in this research opened my heart. I usually ask

the questions. You pushed me out of the script

leading to my personal transformation. Whoever

I see in my day, I speak with them differently now.

It has made me very happy. At first, the life map

was challenging for most of the participants. They

were encouraged to “just identify four or five ma-

jor transitions and what you learned from them.”

Once complete, the life map was transformative

for all of the participants.

PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE

Tools that help older adults identify what’s important

in the next chapter can help them clear time and space

for transcendent experiences and give them courage

to age consciously. In the study by Southam (2020),

participants engaged in exercises from LifeForward:

Charting the Journey Ahead. After decades of research,

study, and writing about adult development, McLean

(2016) developed templates for planning out the later

phases of life. The LifeForward plan

(McLean, 2016) was created to help

adults grow into elderhood and navi-

gate the “rapid, dramatic, and disruptive

change” (viii) that is manifest in today’s

world. McLean writes, “We will prob-

ably have many more chapters in our

lives than our parents had. Many of us

today will enjoy an added bonus round

of twenty-some years of life compared

to past generations. If we are going to

prosper in our elder years, the work

starts now!” (2016, p. ix).

Another research participant,

Mary, had also just retired from a lead-

ership position like Jan, but in her case

it had been in healthcare. At seventy-

nine, she speaks of the first few years

after retirement as a time when she

said “no” to many things. Mary knew

that she needed some time to reassess

and figure out what she wanted to do

with the next stage of her life. She is

now volunteering but is careful with

her time and commitments. Divorced,

she lives alone outside of town and

enjoys the peace and solitude there.

She describes herself as not very re-

ligious, but spiritual. She refers to her

health as good. Below is an example of

a portion of a LifeForward plan where

Mary demonstrates her commitment

PAGE 18to spirituality and discusses the steps she will take

along the way.

WISDOM CIRCLES

As older adults age consciously, they may face many

barriers, such as conflicts with caregivers, family, and

friends who do not see the opportunity for con-

tinuous growth in them. Wisdom circles have been

defined as peer-to-peer “gatherings which help to

create and maintain social connections with other

like-minded persons” (Sage-ing International, 2019).

They are a way for older adults to deal communally

on a regular basis with life completion in a place of

safety and respect. Some circles reclaim the name of

“circle of elders.” Jan went on to help create, and then

participate in, a wisdom circle as a way to support her

conscious aging. Having peer-to-peer support is vital

as older adults, like others, are vulnerable to social

isolation.

Conclusion

Immersed in caring for others (their communities,

families, and the Earth), many older adults do not

take the time to appreciate themselves or to consider

whether their actions align with their own purpose.

Nine highly generative older adults reported that en-

gaging in self-reflection on major turning points in

their lives, and prioritizing what’s important in their

upcoming years, was transformative for them (South-

am, 2020). The 4A+ model was shared here along with

some specific tools like life maps and LifeForward

plans to help older adults avoid being pressured into

activities created by those on the outside and, instead,

lead from inside. •CSA

A 2020 PhD in Human and Organizational Develop-

ment, Theresa Southam continues her research as a

Fielding ISI Fellow. Her research interests include the

lived experience of moving between post conven-

tional stages of human development and emerging into transcen-

dence, the practices that older adults use to enter and exit transcen-

dence, the insights gathered from these travels, as well as how these

insights are applied for the greater good. Theresa has contributed a

blog post and book review to the Association for Anthropology, Ger-

ontology and the Lifecourse. Theresa Southam, PhD tsoutham@

email.fielding.edu

Connie Corley, MSW, MA, PhD is a professor at

Fielding Graduate University and Professor Emeritus

at California State University, Los Angeles. A Fellow

of the Gerontological Society of America and the

Academy of Gerontology in Higher Education, Dr. Corley has pub-

lished widely and presented internationally. She co-hosted and pro-

duced a radio program, Experience Talks, at Pacifica station KPFK-

FM in Los Angeles and spearheaded the podcast Love Goes Viral.

conniecorleyphd@gmail.com • 626-532-7438 • conniecorleyphd.

com

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